Relationships: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Trust Others?

As human beings are inherently interdependent and therefore reliant on others, relationships play a vital role in not only ones survival on this planet, but also in their ability to thrive. And this means that how one perceives others will play a big part in how they experience life.

Of course one is not going to get on with everyone or approve of everything their fellow human beings do, but this is not important. What matters is that they don't go to the other extreme and not get on with anyone or disapprove of everyone.

To do this is going to have the potential to isolate one from others and to put them on alert when they are around them. Or one could go to the other side of the spectrum and do all they can to get the upper hand over others; with this being the only way that one feels safe.

Trust

What this comes down to is the importance of being able to trust others and the difference this will make in one's life. If they can't trust others they are going to suffer in one way or another.

When one finds it hard to trust other people, they are not going to feel the urge to reach out to people; to ask them for assistance and to be there for them. What they are likely to do is to go it alone and to be in constant state of suspicion and even paranoia.

It won't matter if another person has ulterior motives and is out to harm them, as they might end up projecting this onto them regardless of if it's true or not. Life then becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.

Letting Go

So one might not be able to just trust and to let go; with them being in a state of hyper vigilance. In their mind, they are just waiting for the next thing to happen and for them to be taken advantage of or violated in some way. And as this is where their focus is, it will often become what they experience.

This could make them extremely independent and as someone who try to do more or less everything by themselves. What they reveal or don't reveal about who they are, where they want to go and where they have come from, will have to be carefully monitored as a way to avoid being taken advantage of.

Struggle

Quite simply, life could end up being a real struggle. If one couldn't use their arms or legs it would be the same. But while they might be able to rely on their body to be there and to support them, they can't rely on other people to be there and to support them. That being said, if one feels like this in relation to the external world, their body is likely to mirror this; with one experiencing certain aches and pain.

This is not to say that well meaning people are not around them or available to support them, what it means is that one doesn't trust people enough to recognise these people's true intentions. All they could end up seeing are their own beliefs being reflected back.